Here are some etiquette tips from Margery's book, "A Year of Good Manners" which includes the "respect series" paintings from artist Jan Polk's "Great American Flower Collection."
Respect and Manners are our common bonds as civilized people. Please see www.janpolk.com
for information on Respect Awards for children, teenagers, and adults. This project is sponsored by artist Jan Polk.
1. Of course you teach your children that it is not polite to point at people, but it is permitted to point at objects. The right way to indicate another person is to gesture with all your fingers. Keep the palm up, as in "This way, please."
2. Humor can put people at ease or hurt their feelings. Analyze your motives for teasing. Don't try to cover an insult with, "I was just joking!" Express your sense of humor with a kind heart. It is only funny if everyone is laughing.
3. Nobody cares about your life as much as you do. Learn to project confidence when you aren't feeling it; be calm and brave and reliable and worthy of trust. Yes, your career is important, but take time to eat with your family.
4. People with good manners have a lifelong advantage in job situations and personal relationships. Most negotiations are impossible without good manners on both sides. That explains why diplomats are famed for their courtesy.
5. Asking prices in noncommercial settings is rude, and embarrasses those questioned. But you can confidentially request information: "You always dress so well. Would you mind telling me where you shop?"