Respect and Manners are our common bonds as civilized people. Please see www.janpolk.com
for information on Respect Awards for children, teenagers, and adults. This project is sponsored by artist Jan Polk.
1. Definitely attend the office Holiday party. You can leave early, but arrive on time. This event is a chance for face time with your boss, and with the boss' boss. Dress professionally; you are still at work. Cleavage is not in good taste at an office party.
2. Too much alcohol affects your image, judgment, and behavior. Neither coworkers nor clients should see you tipsy and silly. Limit yourself to one drink, or have nonalcoholic beverages only. Self-control is necessary because you are still at the office. Monday morning is coming.
3. Talk to everyone at the party, especially spouses. Ask non-work related questions like, "What keeps you busy?" Learn their hobbies. Avoid "What do you do?" because it implies they have a career and can make a stay-at-home parent feel defensive.
4. Send a thank you note to the boss the next day. If other people in the office organized the party, include praise for them. It will filter down. A prompt, handwritten thank you note will separate you from the barbarians. Everyone likes to feel appreciated.
5. To be a great conversationalist, ask questions using superlatives: most, least, worst, best, latest, and other similar words. "What is your first Christmas memory?" Don't spend too much time talking one-on-one with coworkers' spouses. It could be misinterpreted as flirting.