Respect and Manners are our common bonds as civilized people. Please see www.janpolk.com
for information on Respect Awards for children, teenagers, and adults. This project is sponsored by artist Jan Polk.
1. It's best if everyone at the table finishes eating about the same time. Some people seem to dawdle over every bite; others are speed eaters. The conscious host paces himself to match the progress of the guests. Waiters should clear the entire setting, not one plate at a time.
2. Guests get preferential treatment. Food and drinks are offered to the guests first. The words to remember are, "After you." Guests also get the comfortable chairs, and the seat with the best view.
3. Teaching manners to children is the kindest thing you can do for them, and it is a long-term project. Teach by example, gently correct, encourage, quietly remind, praise when you can, and keep on doing it. Start when they are toddlers, and you will have lovely teenagers.
4. Any child who can talk can say "Please" and "Thank you." Well-mannered children have more friends, and get taken to very nice places. Learning good manners gives them lifelong advantages, socially and professionally.
5. Never discount the "likability factor." When people like you, partly because of your good manners, they are more likely to give you a break in other areas. A likable person can be charmingly eccentric; an unlikable person just seems weird.