Here are some etiquette tips from Margery's book, "A Year of Good Manners" which includes the "respect series" paintings from artist Jan Polk's "Great American Flower Collection."
Respect and Manners are our common bonds as civilized people. Please see www.janpolk.com
for information on Respect Awards for children, teenagers, and adults. This project is sponsored by artist Jan Polk.
1. Send the wedding gift at the time of the wedding. If it is sent 12 months later, it looks like you were thinking, "Yeah, let's see if this lasts a year." A gift sent a year late becomes an anniversary gift.
2. Brides and grooms have more than the usual one week to send thank you notes for wedding presents. This "bridal exception" is four to six weeks, not one year. They don't have to spend their honeymoon writing thank you notes. Grooms are expected to write their fair share.
3. Your children have been invited to a wedding only if their names are written on the inner envelope of the invitation. They are not automatically included with their parents even if they are related to the bride and groom.
4. Wedding presents are returned to the givers if the marriage does not occur. Once it does, the gifts become joint property. If the marriage ends, they go to whomever makes the better case for possession.
5. Do not take wedding gifts to the reception and make other people pick up after you. Thr groomsmen are gone and the parents are tired. Delivery to the proper address is the responsibility of the giver.