Margery teaches not just current fashion, but also the reasons for the rules. The language of clothes is filled with hidden meanings and assumptions.
She decodes these messages and helps you present the image that is a true reflection of your best professional self.
Originally from a small town in central Wisconsin, she attended the University of Wisconsin in Madison and then worked as a fashion and photographic model for ten years based in Tokyo, Paris, New York and Honolulu. She graduated from UW-Milwaukee in 1997 with a B.A. degree in Women's Studies.
Margery taught American Business Manners to Japanese executives while living in Tokyo. This included international standards of corporate etiquette and business attire: dressing for everything including annual board meetings and looking stylish (but not silly) on the golf course.
Margery Sinclair is based in Annapolis, Maryland. She presents business etiquette dinners and teaches professional appearance classes for colleges and corporations. She developed and taught the Business Etiquette curriculum at the former Milwaukee College of Business; she also taught World Geography there.
Having traveled to 118 countries, and circled the world three times, Margery teaches directly from her international experiences. Her major interests in these travels are the customs of different cultures--what is considered appropriate and why. The lessons learned from widely varying standards of expectations fuel her belief that one's cultural savvy and self-awareness dramatically influences one's effectiveness in business.
By KAREN HERZOG
Table manners aren't child's play. But children who don't learn to wait their turn for the potatoes or to chew with their mouth closed may face challenges later in life - especially in their careers.
"The No. 1 reason people lose a job is they don't play well with others," said Mary Spencer, director of placement at the Milwaukee School of Engineering.
Three times a year, the school offers etiquette and interpersonal skill workshops for engineering students who are preparing for job interviews. Lunch or dinner often is part of job interviews. The prospective employer is attuned to not only what the candidate says, but how he or she handles details of dinner - from selecting menu items to finessing conversation, Spencer said. That's because technical job skills aren't all that matter, especially if the job will involve entertaining clients over dinner.
“Table manners are considered shorthand for other aspects of etiquette," said Margery Sinclair of Glendale, who teaches etiquette classes for both children and business clients. "If table manners are fine, the rest of their social skills are considered good as well. Etiquette refers to all of the rules governing behavior. Manners refers to one's personal behavior." If children develop good manners, they grow up with respect and consideration for others, Sinclair said, and tend to have more friends. "Children who grow up with a knowledge of etiquette have a lifelong advantage." Sinclair has a favorite quote from "Miss Manners" Judith Martin: "Sloppy eating habits have probably ruined more relationships than evil hearts." Stressing table manners from childhood through adulthood sounds a bit old-fashioned, but it's part of the lifelong pursuit of happiness, according to both those who teach etiquette and the professionals who validate its importance. Spencer said MSOE started offering its workshops on etiquette after getting feedback from business owners and students about skills that needed honing, such as "what to wear to an interview and how to handle dinner."
"Students ate pizza and hamburgers for four years and all of the sudden, they were confronted with multiple forks and questions such as, 'Who orders, can I order a drink, do you crush the crackers for soup, which fork do I use first, and can I eat the flower on my plate?' " Spencer said.
Initially, MSOE had to do "a lot of selling" to get students who prided themselves on technical job skills to attend etiquette workshops, Spencer said. But turnout has been strong at the workshops taught by outside professionals. Donna Panko, owner of Professional Skill Builders consulting in Chicago, has taught some of the MSOE workshops, which cover general business etiquette and image building.
“When I was a little girl, my grandmother showed me her Birthday Book. On the left side of each page, there were quotations from the poetry of Alfred Lord Tennyson, one for each day of the year. On the right side, she wrote the birthdays of her parents and grandparents, and of my brother and me. My father boldly wrote his own name on January 11, adding 'age 9.'
”I have since entered the birthday of my son, and he will add the special days of his children, the fifth generation.
“It is now a family heirloom, especially meaningful and personal to have this information in the hand-writing of people who are no longer with us. If there's ever a fire, I'm grabbing this on my way out the door!”